2020 Chaos Rally #44

In this coming week’s wellness tarot challenge, we are asked to practice the art of the pause during conflict. Read on for details!


This Coming Week’s Reading


The purpose of this Chaos Rally tarot reading is to take a look at the coming week and see in what way we can challenge ourselves to do better in regards to our overall wellness. I ask you to approach this as a fun brainstorming session of possibilities rather than me prescribing a course of action to you.

And again, in terms of wellness I want to point out that this applies to the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects of the self. All four of these comprise the total sense of being and need to be taken care of in order to be well. As always, and I cannot stress this enough, be sure to speak to the appropriate professional before making changes to your care plan. This is especially true if my reading for some reason inspires a change in diet, exercise, supplements, or medications, or even raises a concern regarding to your health.

I’m not a specialist in any of these fields. My goal is to look at how to manage wellness in the presence and with the cooperation of your professional care team. Please keep this in mind when going over this reading.

Here is the image of this coming week’s reading.

The Challenge: Five of Swords

Examine your intentions and motivations when you approach conflict.

Monday Button’s position represents the challenge you need to be working on at this time. Thus, what you need to be working on right now is found within the Five of Swords.

This coming week’s challenge we are asked to examine our intentions and motivations when we approach conflict. Are we entering conflict with curiosity and a desire to understand, or are we entering it only to win?

The Lesson: Temperance

Learn how to be more flexible and adaptive in your life in order to evolve and transform on an individual level.

Grim Lee’s position represents what you need to be learning while working on your challenge. Therefore, your lesson at this time is found within the Temperance.

Temperance is about alchemy and one definition for alchemy is the seemingly magical process of transformation, creation, or combination. In life, this typically translates into being flexible and adaptive. This particular skill set is the biggest reason we as humans have evolved the way we have. Mastering this skill set will allow you to evolve on an individual level as well.

By opening up and being flexible enough to actively listen to the other person, it doesn’t mean you automatically agree with them but it does mean that you acknowledge them.

Being closed minded and set in your ways when entering conflict only increases friction between you and the other person. This rigidity reduces the chances of either one of you feeling seen, heard, and understood.

By opening up and being flexible enough to actively listen to the other person, it doesn’t mean you automatically agree with them but it does mean that you acknowledge them. Doing this gives them the opportunity to do the same for you.

The Inner Lie: Ace of Swords

Contempt has a way of disguising itself as the truth and loves to cut deep.

Murphy Law’s position represents the false belief you need to overcome while working on your challenge. The inner lie at this time is revealed within the Ace of Swords.

How and why you say something is just as important as telling the truth. It’s not enough for it to be true. It also needs to be kind, relevant, and helpful.

Contempt has a way of disguising itself as the truth and loves to cut deep. The Gottman Institute refers to contempt as one of the Four Horsemen in relationships in the sense that it will breakdown and destroy them if you’re not careful.

In this case, we think we’re just telling it like it is but really all we’re doing is lashing out and causing harm.

During conflict be mindful of not just what you say, but also how you say it.

During conflict be mindful of not just what you say, but also how you say it. Practice using “I” statements without blame or shame. Set boundaries without the expectation of controlling the other person.

Change and transformation starts with you.

Change and transformation starts with you. The common denominator for everything happening in your life is you. So whatever you have going on in your life that you’re not happy with, you have the power to change. Make different choices. Respond differently. Act differently. Set new boundaries. Whatever it is you need to do, do it.

Change the way you interact with people and people will change in response.

The message here is clear. Change the way you interact with people and people will change in response. It may take some time for others to get accustomed to this new pattern of behavior from you, but be persistent. Nothing happens overnight.

The Wisdom: The Hanged Man

Practice the art of the pause.

Wise Toad’s position represents the wisdom to keep in mind as you work on your challenge. The wisdom you need at this time is found within the Hanged Man.

Look at the image of this card. The man dove into the well to eagerly claim the treasure before realizing there was a vengeful fire spirit down there to contend with.

Practice the art of the pause. Take your time to understand the situation, both internally and externally. Charging in blindly and reacting only leads to trouble.

Practicing the art of the pause during conflict reduces emotional flooding and keeps your head clear.

Practicing the art of the pause during conflict reduces emotional flooding and keeps your head clear. It helps to prevent regrettable mishaps in the conversation. Making repairs as needed becomes easier too.

Practicing the art of the pause frees to act instead of being blindly driven by the situation.

Practicing the art of the pause allows you to be more flexible since your head is kept clear enough to see more options. You are free to act instead of being blindly driven by the situation. By using the pause, you’re no longer a victim of circumstance.

Practicing the art of the pause permits you to choose your words wisely rather than on impulse.

Practicing the art of the pause permits you to choose your words wisely rather than on impulse. Doing so will give what you have to say more meaning and impact. Unintentional harm can be reduced or avoided completely.

Conclusion

When entering conflict, the most power tool you have is the art of the pause.

When entering conflict, the most power tool you have is the art of the pause. This tool allows you time to discern your intentions, truly hear the other person, make whatever changes you need to make, and say what it is you really need to say. It takes time and effort to master this skill but doing so is a transformative experience.


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