So for today’s adventures of the Goblin Horde… since I don’t really know what else call this personal post at the moment, guess this generic and bland title will have to do. All I know is that I’d like to get back into the habit of journaling again.
Well, it started out a bit rough. I slept in until around 10:30am so I ended up feeling like I had wasted the morning away for nothing. Meanwhile, Little Bear was in a foul mood which in turn made it hard for me to get rolling in gear. Ultimately I had to speak to him about it and of course this set him off.
So this is where I had to make a choice. I could either engage with it or I could step back. I chose to step back by stating I was tired and started making a cup of hot chocolate.
I told him that I understood that he was angry, but there is a healthy and safe way to express it. This is when he mentioned how much he hated coping skills. I asked him why he hated them and he told me they were dumb. This is when I told him if he thought the ones he was trying to use were dumb then it meant he needed to find something else that didn’t feel that way and actually helped him. The whole point of coping skills is to help us regulate in safe and healthy ways and what he was doing right now wasn’t safe or healthy.
Surprisingly, this calmed him down and he asked for a hug. I told him I would hug him for as long as he needed and waited until he pulled away. This is when I told him I loved him, and of course it irritated him and he told me that he knew that already. That’s when I said that I needed to remind him of it once in awhile.
As I sat down at my desk to get to work on the blog, I got to thinking about Love Languages and how different mine are from my youngest son’s. I scored 11 out of 12 for Words of Affirmation. So if you don’t verbally state, confirm, validate, or whatever it, then it isn’t really real for me on an emotional level. Little Bear on the other hand, if I had to guess, probably scores very low on the Words of Affirmation axis. For him Quality Time, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch seem to matter the most.
And yeah, he found the cup of hot chocolate waiting for him on his desk after I started working on my blog and seemed really pleased to find out it was for him.
Later in the day, we cooked grilled cheese sandwiches together for his dinner. He had trouble coordinating his hands to butter the bread and when the butter fell of the second time, he looked to me for my reaction. I couldn’t help myself. I giggled. I honestly did find it funny. And he smiled too. So that was a good thing. In retrospect, I guess he was worried that I would be upset. I wasn’t. I came down there to make the sandwiches. I could have just made them myself, but he wanted to learn so I let him give it a try. Even let him flip them over in the skillet. It was stress free and relaxed.
I did get quite a bit of work done with the blog today, just not in the way of scheduling posts. Most of it was with creating reusable blocks again. This time it was blocks for my tarot based music playlists.
I’ve also been having trouble with my published post feed so I checked my blog’s health with Jetpack and found that the data isn’t synced properly. Been trying to get that to sync up correctly as I write this. Not sure what happened to make that go wrong. I wonder if it has something to do with the way I work in multiple tabs. I don’t know. I could be wrong. I do know that regardless of which browser I switched to, the problem was still there. I also know that I would like for everything to be running smoothly on the blog again here soon so I can feel like I’m moving forward with all of what I’ve got to do.
Public school vacation will be ending here soon for Tuxedo Cat, which means I will need to be back at it with assisting in remote learning for him as well as homeschooling Little Bear.
As much as I prefer the Unschooling Method, Little Bear seems to think I’m not actually teaching anything that way so I’ve been planning on combining some Unit Studies and maybe some worksheets for him. I do like the idea of a looping schedule instead of trying to fit everything all into one day for him. This way if something needs more attention or help, we can give it the full one-on-one attention that day. Or maybe he’s just really into that project, which would also be fine. I don’t see the need to rush him if he needs or wants more time with something. I don’t know about anyone else, but I hate being rushed. And the beauty of homeschooling is that it can be tailored to the needs of the student. I’ll probably be experimenting for awhile yet, but I know I’ll get it figured out.
I’ve been seeing lately Scholar Owl getting along better with Little Bear. Like to the point where the two of them are playing video games together more often. This brings me joy and peace. I feel pretty good on the days I see them together like that.
Even Tuxedo Cat has been spending more time with Little Bear, but in different ways. The two of them will go outdoors to do stuff together. Their last adventure together involved the puddles on one of the warmer days, much to my mother’s annoyance. Little Bear had felt the need to lay down in the largest puddle and got himself all wet. And of course he came back in, complaining how cold he was after he stripped off the wet clothes. All I could tell him was that maybe next time he wouldn’t do that and to wrap himself up in a warm blanket. To say anything more than that would have been pointless.
Two hours after I started writing this entry and the blog is still trying to repair the Jetpack data sync. I guess it’s time to take a break and find something else to do. I can always copy this over into the blog when I get the chance later.
~ 9:00pm 01/02/2021
PS: Around 1am the following morning Jetpack finally says my blog is properly data synced but I was still having roughly the same problem of not seeing my latest published posts show up in my list, even though I could see in my stats that people were visiting them. Two hours later, I decided to shut off the Patreon plugin I had on since I wasn’t really using it because I haven’t been able to get it to work right and ta-da! My problem was solved and my entire blog site runs faster now too. So this entry will go up and get back dated and I’ll be getting back to work at a faster pace I hope.
~ 2:47am 01/03/2021