Here’s today’s journal writing prompt along with my corresponding journal entry. Read more for details!
Two of Cups
Do I operate from a place of unity?
Far too often, when we desire harmony we expect the other person to be the one to step up to the plate and put in the effort without doing so ourselves. Unity requires both people to meet in the middle. Compromise isn’t really compromise when one person is doing all of the compromising. That’s actually sacrificing and that creates a power imbalance and this breeds resentment. The reason for this is that leaves the needs of the one that is sacrificing unmet and their voice remains unheard.
There are a lot of reasons for this to happen, but the biggest is a lack of or disrespected boundaries. So when this is happening to you or to the other person in the dynamic – and yes this requires a huge amount of honesty on your part – it’s time to ask yourself what do YOU need to be doing to change this dynamic.
For me this meant speaking up more often in just about all of my relationship dynamics. It meant identifying and stating my needs more clearly and directly. It also meant not backing down from them. It’s not always received well. Often times people interpret this as meaning they are bad people when in truth it actually means I haven’t ever really been good at knowing what I needed in the first place. Even now I still get it wrong and find myself confused as to why whatever I thought I needed isn’t working.
The important thing here is to give myself the grace and space to learn and practice the skills around this as I figure it out. The more I do, the better I get at it. I’m learning that you can hold and respect boundaries without being combative about it. Setting a boundary doesn’t need to be declaring war against someone every time.
I’m finding that the better I get at this, the more peaceful my life actually becomes.
It’s important to note here that the same is true about respecting the boundaries of others without sacrificing your own. This is what compromise truly means. Seeking out the win-win for both rather than taking turns on winning. Because when you take turns, what actually happens is a power struggle emerges at best and at worst the scales are tipped in favor for one person. I don’t think it happens on purpose every time. I just think this is a human tendency in the name of keeping the peace when in truth most of us are blind to what peace really means.
So I’m going to bring today’s question back to you. How does it apply to your life right now? How do you feel about it? What’s happening around that to make you feel this way? What would you like to do about it?Write the answers in your journal in detail.
If for some reason this prompt is leaving you stumped, that’s okay, you can either write about something else or just allow the image of the card inspire you instead. The entire point of this is to get you started, not to confine you in any way. Happy writing!
~ Legacy of the Divine Tarot by Ciro Marchetti (Illustrator and Author) © 2009
~ Credit for 3D model and assets used in this rendered image can be found here.
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